Whitney Reynolds: #roadtoabetterme
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WHITNEY'S PERSONAL JOURNEY:
1. WHAT DO YOU WANT US TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR JOURNEY, AND WHEN DID YOU DECIDE ON YOUR DESTINATION?
My journey has been all but simple. Funny thing is, I expected it to be a seamless transition that was hopeful and optimistic, but we often find that things don’t always turn out as planned. In November 2016, I signed my electronic signature and agreed to take a leap of faith on beginning my full-time career in NYC. I was both full of excitement and nerves, but in all honesty, I pushed this to the back of my mind because I still had my entire senior year ahead of me. Before I knew it, I was crossing the stage at graduation and quickly realizing that my move was approaching more quickly than I imagined. I dedicated much of my summer to saving for my move – I spread myself thin by working multiple jobs and planning. Planning what the move would look like, what day I would say my goodbyes, and all the things that I dreamt of exploring in the city.
On August 29th, I stepped onto the plane, teary eyed and unsure of what was to come. The first few days were a blur, moving furniture and boxes to my tiny bedroom in a fifth-floor walkup. Then, reality set in. I was experiencing stress from every angle and to top it off, I experienced the worst breakup I’d ever gone through. I actually hit rock bottom. The move that I thought would be so exciting was turning out to be too much for me to handle. I considered leaving and trying to start over in MI, but deep down I knew that wasn’t what would solve my problems.
It was time to rebuild. Time to turn my life around and rediscover myself. Time to pave the way for new opportunities and growth. And I did just that. I spent many hours alone, learning to smile again even during what seemed like my darkest time. I’m not sure how long this process took, and in complete transparency, I’m still becoming a better version of myself every day. What I can say is that I’m thankful for my move to NY, and even more thankful for the experiences that have shaped me along the way. I’m becoming the best version of myself and I have some exciting things in store for 2018. Stay tuned!
2. WHAT HAVE BEEN SOME HIGHLIGHTS ON YOUR #ROADTOABETTERME?
My greatest highlight during my journey was the day I recall telling a friend “I’m the happiest I’ve been in years.” I can’t recall the exact point at which I said this, but it came with such ease that I realized I had finally reached the other side. My journey to a better me was finally coming to fruition. My goal was to start saying “yes” to more things. Instead of going home after work or staying in on the weekends, I began hanging out with new friends, exploring new parts of the city, and developing ideas for my blog that I launched this week!
3. WHAT ROADBLOCKS HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED, AND WHAT HAVE YOU LEARNED FROM THEM?
One of my most challenging roadblocks has been my concern that I’ll relapse in my growth. As silly as that seems, I’ve reached such a place of positivity that whenever I experience sadness or self-doubt, I worry about reversing the growth I’ve worked so hard to achieve. And in case you didn’t need to be reminded of another cliché phrase, I’ve really learned to just trust the process. I know that it’s okay to be sad sometimes and that these emotions don’t hinder my growth. If anything, it helps me realize that I’ve come a long way and there’s even more progress to be made!
4. WHAT RESOURCES DO YOU RECOMMEND TO THE REST OF THE #ROADTO_ COMMUNITY AS THEY TRAVERSE THEIR OWN PATHS?
- I’m “old fashioned” and I appreciate a good notebook and pen. Writing is therapeutic for me and I connect more closely with my emotions through journaling. I would recommend a notebook that is small enough to travel with to be able to jot down any ideas/thoughts even on the go!
- I LOVE reading blogs. Recently, Black Girl in Om has been a favorite as well as Halfie Truths and The Sunflower Experience. These are all beautiful accounts of personal experiences and discovering your truth.
- I just started reading “You are a Badass” by Jen Sincero and I highly recommend it to anyone that is looking for a realistic, yet comical account of what it really means to get your shit together.