DailyRi 001: #2018TaughtMe
IT’S THE SECOND DAY OF JANUARY, & I’M READY TO TAKE FLIGHT.
WHY DAILYRi? WHY NOW?
During my 12 hour layover last week, I posted an IG story discussing my 2019 plan. i talked about how several great ideas have been floating around in my head over the past several months, how I promised myself not to commit to anything until the New Year. i legit wrote down every idea i had, every commitment others placed on me (including school related ones), and listed my non-negotiable obligations. from there, i asked myself “does this thing align with your purpose/longterm vision?” i crossed off most things on my list and wrote “not right now” on a few things. this (surprisingly super helpful) process helped me lessen the load so i can truly take flight in 2019.
one of my main priorities that survived this process was finding a way to write every single day. to continue documenting my journey. Well, it’s the New Year, and…. i promised.
INTRODUCING THE DAILYRi SERIES.
Inspired by Gary Vaynerchuck’s DailyVees, DailyRi is my daily commitment to documenting my #roadtorima, in shorter form riflections, 1) because writing makes me happy, and 2) i’ve become obsessed with walking in my purpose & drafting a story that I can be proud of.
SO I’LL BE HERE EVERY DAY.
DAILYRi 001: #2018TaughtMe
THAT I’M A SERIOUS WORK IN PROGRESS.
& that progress takes some serious work.
it taught me that us educated, "ambitious-types" are especially vulnerable to living a life riddled in brokenness and unhealthy thought patterns if we don't learn to occasionally stop in our speedy tracks - sometimes even take a few steps backwards - and prioritize healing and happiness above all of our lofty goals. after all, what's the point of "getting there" if i feel like shit once i do?
if i accomplished NOTHING ELSE in 2018 (& i've accomplished a whole lot), i learned to uproot debilitating thought patterns and heal from traumatic pain-points that i hadn't since revisited. every single one of my most valuable 2018 lessons on healing are a rendition of that last paragraph.
in more specific terms, 2018 taught me that:
1- time is an illusion when dealing with grief
2- i need to start prioritizing how i want to feel over what goals i want to accomplish
3- there are no coincidences - pay attention
4- nothing is worth acting from a place that is not love, towards self & others
5- the only narrative i should try to control is the one i'm drafting
6- prioritizing health (mental, spiritual, physical) is how i express gratitude
7- praying calms me because it's a humbling reminder that life owes me nothing
8- nothing is personal...even when it is
9- being nervous, anxious, stressed is me trying to control things that were never mine to control
10- treating others the way i want to be treated is empathy's antidote
11- i need to love & treat kindly all parts of myself - especially the ones i'm trying to get rid of
12- lots and lots of tests can be disguised as signs, & it's up to me to practice discernment
13- i'm a whole different kind of "happy" when i'm home, around family & my community in dearborn
14- i've already been validated by the only source whose opinion matters: God
15- makeup is overrated, vision boards are powerful, & 5AM workouts are litty
16- nice guys don't finish last - they last (but i'm still not ready)
17- the health of my relationship to self determines the health of my relationships with all else
18- gratitude is the inverse of greed
2019 WILL BE LIT.
i’m really excited about this new year. and not in the cliché “new year, new me” kind of way (although there is absolutely nothing wrong with that), but in the “i really think i’m on to something” kind of way. I can say I’ve identified my purpose in 2018, and i’ve started to walk in it. i know god was waiting for me to heal before i could start exercising these muscles. and now i feel like i’m officially ready to carry heavier loads and begin impacting more people than ever before. 2018 was about recovery & personal breakthroughs, and 2019 will be all about impact - i just feel it.