DailyRi 015: Empathizing With Big Egos
I FEEL BAD FOR PEOPLE WITH BIG EGOS.
& not in a condescending way. i actually extend a whole lot of empathy with egomaniacs or people whose egos rule over their daily interactions. i was always too humble to be an egomaniac, but not too long ago, my ego would still make its loud appearance in too many of my day to day interactions. i know what it’s like to be controlled by my ego from time to time.
i extend empathy to egotistical people because it really sucks to be that way. what’s worse is that egotistical people are super misunderstood. people whose interactions are ruled by their egos are the most insecure, scared people we all know. we are just too distracted by their loud, abrasive, in-your-face behavior to see these outbursts for what they truly are: a cry for help.
people who are ruled by their ego are too insecure & doubtful of themselves to resort to truly powerful forces like love & humility. i feel most powerful when i can react from a place of empathy & love during the same interactions that would have once had me in an ego-match (fighting over a parking space, getting in an argument with a loved one, dealing with toxic relationship dynamics, etc.).
see, a big ego is like a balloon. it can be easily inflated with compliments, likes on instagram, or a simple look in the mirror. but like balloons, egos are filled with things lacking in substances & are therefore super vulnerable. one negative comment or unexpected pimple could deflate someone’s ego like a pin pops a balloon. the bigger the balloon, the more devastating it is when it pops. if we allow our balloons to become this inflated, we are making ourselves increasingly susceptible to other people, as only they have the power to make or break us.
I CAN’T HELP BUT FEEL BAD FOR THE PERSON WHOSE SELF WORTH IS SO EASILY INFLUENCED BY OTHERS’ OPINIONS.
every single day, i am working to kill my ego. i want my sense of self to come from god. i don’t want people’s opinions - good or bad - to be able to influence the way i think or feel about myself. i am humble enough to know that my true power & value comes from the one person who created me. don’t get me wrong, it is always nice to hear loving, positive things, & i will always be this kind of person to others, but those messages should never have the power to inform who we know we are. that’s what it means to be ego-free.
for this reason, i don’t mistreat or dislike the egomaniacs that i know. i don’t want to be anything like them. i am not threatened by them. my values come from more fulfilling places, & i think that’s why i’m able to truly empathize with them. i just do me, in hopes that my sense of purpose could perplex them enough to realize their perception of power is flawed. i don’t insult them, make them feel badly about themselves, poke fun at them. most of them are already doing that for themselves.