DailyRi 038: What Mama Taught Me About Mental Health
MY MOM IS THE SELF LOVE, SELF CARE QUEEN.
but like many people who are experts at taking care of their mental health, this skillset came as a necessity, almost like a survival mechanism. my mom had it a lot harder than i ever will, & every day, i’m blown away by the lives she has outlived to be here.
i was talking to a good friend the other day who said that, in order to continue walking in alignment with our higher purpose, we need to die to ourselves every day. yeah, you read that correctly. the old version of ourselves, our attachments, our ego, how we believe we’re being perceived - all of that needs to die each & every day in order for us to continue walking in our higher purpose.
it sounds dramatic & unattainable, but honestly i understood it perfectly. every day is a fresh page with new opportunities for me to write the story god put in my heart. i can’t fixate on the page i just turned, or obsess over the pages i think others might want to read. i just need to listen, pay attention, & write.
now back to mama.
mama is my favorite book to read, because she is a perfect example of someone who has legitimately killed expired or dated versions of herself to continue evolving into a next level woman. & i cannot explain in words how important this was for me & my younger sister to see.
lately, i’ve become even more obsessive over my parents’ stories. their journey. i’m trying to learn everything i possibly can from them, because i want to emulate 95% of their parenting style when i have children. i have always known my mother was an amazing mom. but in analyzing her parenting style more deeply, i recently realized that it was her relationship to herself that truly changed the game for me.
my mother was a beautiful example of a woman who, every single day, worked to have a healthier, more loving, more positive, more forgiving relationship with herself. she was wise enough to understand that working from the inside out would have game-changing results on all the other relationships in her life. i get emotional every time i think about this. i don’t even know who or where i’d be in light of losing my father if i didn’t have a mother who was finding herself every day.
MAMA TAUGHT ME TO DO IT FOR ME FIRST, BEFORE I COULD EVER DO IT FOR ANYONE ELSE.